Have a Good Life

• News Items
  • New Jersey toddler Ayaansh Kumar bought nearly $2,000 in Walmart furniture, unbeknownst to his parents
    https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2022/01/25/new-jersey-toddler-walmart-cart-online-shopping/
    • Mother Madhu Kumar shopped for furniture and other household goods but did not actually purchase them
    • Her son Ayaansh (22-months) was playing on her phone and somehow would up in the Walmart app, where he executed the purchases
    • His parents tried to cancel the undelivered orders but were unable to do so
    • They’ve arranged to return the items (most of them) to Walmart for refunds
    • Parents will install passcodes and prevent the automatic loading of payment info
• How It Happens
  • This is a problem that has been around since the rise of the world wide web (and probably even before that)
  • A kid with access to a parent credit card could use it online to make purchases, since there are no reliable tools for checking identity online
  • More recently, credit cards are stored by online merchants or in apps, making it much easier for unauthorized purchases to occur
  • So-called “bait apps” aggressively encourage children to make in-app purchases to enhance their playing experience
  • Problem has spread to smart speakers (Alexa,
• Legal Issues
  • Parents are legally liable for the purchases made by their children when children use their parents’ credit cards
    • Credit card companies that promise zero liability for unauthorized purchases may offer refunds but others will only do so if the card is lost or stolen
  • Refunds may be available
    • However, some service providers or game companies may refuse to issue refunds if payment is made through a third-party (the Apple Store, for instance)
    • Refunds may also be denied if you have made your child an authorized user
  • If the online service provider is guilty of fraud or inducements aimed at children, the Federal Trade Commission may order refunds
    • In 2014, the FTC settled a class action lawsuit with Google, Apple, and Amazon, in which all three companies paid millions in refunds.
• Recovery / Restitution
  • Try to cancel pending orders
  • Request refunds from the merchant
  • Dispute the charges with your credit card
  • Contact the Federal Trade Commission
  • Set up a GoFundMe?
• Prevention
  • Supervision and Education
    • Browser Filters
    • Parental Control Accounts
      • Apple’s Ask to Buy and Family Sharing sends a request to the card holder each time a child tries to make a purchase or download. You can eliminate in-app purchases entirely by turning on Screen Time on their devices.
    • Child-Specific Browsers
    • Help your child(ren) understand the use of credit cards and possible consequences
  • Clear Boundaries
    • Set up separate Apple IDs for children (make sure you know the password)
    • Turn on “guest mode” on your device (if available) before handing it to a child
    • Require password or biometric confirmation by an adult for purchases
  • Financial Restrictions
    • Do not link your credit card to apps used by your child
    • If your child is an authorized user, see if your credit card company will let you set a limit on his or her spending, or create real-time notifications for purchases
    • Consider using a debit card or topping-off card for in-app purchases
  • Device protection
    • Make sure that your device locks within a short time – 10–15 seconds
    • Use a password that is complicated/long enough that it cannot easily be memorized by a watching child
    • Try not to leave mobile devices unattended
• Resources
  • Advice and Tips - #2021–08–03 How to protect your credit card from small kids
    https://www.kaspersky.com/blog/save-credit-card-from-games-small-kids/40997/
    - #2021–01–26 Who’s responsible for your kids’ unauthorized credit card charges?
    https://www.cnbc.com/select/whos-responsible-for-kids-unauthorized-credit-card-charges/
    - #2019–08–23 Children and Internet: How to avoid accidental purchases
    https://www.santander.com/en/press-room/dp/children-and-internet-how-to-avoid-accidental-purchases
    - #2019–01–25 5 Ways to Curb Kids’ In-App Purchases on the iPhone
    https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/5-ways-to-curb-kids-in-app-purchases-on-the-iphone
    - #2018–08–18 How To Prevent Your Kid From Ordering $400 Worth of Toys on Amazon
    https://thepointsguy.com/news/how-to-prevent-your-kid-from-ordering-toys-on-amazon/
    - #2018–04–18 How to Stop Your Kids From Buying Stuff in Fortnite
    https://lifehacker.com/how-to-stop-your-kids-from-buying-stuff-in-fortnite–1825339110
    - #2014–03–31 Apple Lets Parents Get Refunds for In-App Purchases
    https://www.nbcnews.com/business/consumer/apple-lets-parents-get-refunds-in-app-purchases-n67811
    - #2013–04–16 How to Prevent Your Kids From Spending Thousands of Dollars on In-App Purchases
    https://www.howtogeek.com/142491/how-to-prevent-your-kids-from-spending-thousands-of-dollars-on-in-app-purchases/
  • Cautionary Tales - #2021–05–07 A mom panicked when her 4-year-old bought $2,600 in SpongeBob Popsicles. Good Samaritans are paying.
    https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2021/05/07/spongebob-popsicles-noah/
    - #2021–02–16 Boy, 7, accidentally spends £1,200 on online games, including £800 on virtual cat food
    https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/boy–7-accidentally-spends–1200–23508222
    - #2020–12–13 Child spends $16K on iPad game in-app purchases
    https://appleinsider.com/articles/20/12/13/kid-spends–16k-on-in-app-purchases-for-ipad-game-sonic-forces
    - #2020–03–11 My kids spent £600 on their iPads without my knowledge #Roblox
    https://www.theguardian.com/money/2020/mar/11/my-kids-spent–600-on-their-ipads-without-my-knowledge
    - #2019–07–15 ‘My son spent £3,160 in one game’
    https://www.bbc.com/news/technology–48925623
    - #2018–03–23 Parents Are Sharing the Hilariously Random Things Their Kids Accidentally Purchased Online
    https://www.workingmother.com/parents-are-sharing-the-hilariously-random-things-their-kids-accidentally-purchased-online
    - #2017–01–27 Amazon’s Alexa started ordering people dollhouses after hearing its name on TV
    https://www.theverge.com/2017/1/7/14200210/amazon-alexa-tech-news-anchor-order-dollhouse
    - #2016–11–23 11 WTF Items That Kids Ordered Online Without Telling Their Parents
    https://cafemom.com/parenting/202014–11_wtf_items_that_kids
    - #2016–04–24 A car, flights and a 6ft Womble cutout: What kids accidentally bought on their parents’ phones
    https://metro.co.uk/2016/04/24/a-car-flights-and-a–6ft-womble-cutout-what-kids-accidentally-bought-on-their-parents-phones–5837975/
    - #2013–07–13 U.S. toddler accidentally buys car while playing with dad’s smartphone
    https://www.ctvnews.ca/sci-tech/u-s-toddler-accidentally-buys-car-while-playing-with-dad-s-smartphone–1.1365693
    - #2013–03–02 5 year old accidentally spends $2570 on iPad in-app purchases
    https://www.slashgear.com/5-year-old-accidentally-spends–2570-on-ipad-in-app-purchases–02272254/

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Dr. Michael Gaskell Web site is Principal at Hammarskjold Middle School in East Brunswick, NJ. following experience as a special educator and assistant principal in Paramus, NJ. He continues to model the pursuit of lifelong learning as he serves to mentor new principals through the New Jersey Leaders to Leaders program. An NJPSA Stars recipient, he has been published in over 2 dozen articles in education journals and blogs, including eSchoolNews, NASSP, Edtech and ASCD Smartbrief, he has made the most-read section of ASCD Smartbrief numerous times. Mike had a book published in October, 2020 (Microstrategy Magic), and a second book publishing in September 2021 (Leading Schools Through Trauma). Dr. Gaskell works tirelessly to support instructional excellence and student success, for his school community, and most importantly, for the wellness and equity of all children.

• Teachers need day-to-day strategies.
• Gamification - helps in powerful and subtle ways
• Small wins.
• Moving in the right direction.
• We need data - when you test kids, it creates anxiety
• Teacher greeting at the door.
• One-sentence intervention
• Even if it is small, it can still make a difference.
• Coffee talk - background noise to calm kids.
• Getting a perfect amount of slight background noise.
• Distracts you enough from other distractions.
• Right-size seating
• When you move the body you move the mind.
• Breathing exercises - 4–5–8 breathing exercise
• Goal setting - What are my goals for becoming better. 4% outside their comfort zone.
• Build on small wins over time.
• How to be a transformative principal? Listen to everyone.

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• The Feedback Pendulum: A manifesto for enhancing feedback in education by Michael Chiles

• Putting Staff First: A blueprint for revitalising our schools by John Tomsett and Jonny Uttley

• 10 Things Schools Get Wrong (And How We Can Get Them Right) by Jared Cooney Horvath and David Bott

• Let’s Talk About Flex: Flipping the flexible working narrative for education by Emma Turner

• A Parent’s Guide to Powerful Teaching by Patrice Bain

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New Episode of @TrnFrmPrincipal

Activism - Activities that students engage in that are in the scope of the first amendment.
- News Item
- #2022–01–11 A CNY gay teen shares his ‘biggest challenge’; school’s response sets off a storm
“https://www.syracuse.com/schools/2022/01/a-cny-gay-teen-shares-his-biggest-challenge-schools-response-sets-off-a-storm.html”
- #2022–01–10 Crisis in the Classroom: Gay high school senior censored by school publication
“https://cnycentral.com/news/local/crisis-in-the-classroom-gay-tully-high-school-senior-censored-by-school-publication”
- Gay student named Tyler Johnson chosen for a senior spotlight profile in school newspaper
- One question was to identify his biggest challenge
- “So, I said that my biggest challenge was essentially growing up gay and having to navigate through bullying and navigate through life itself, and like, all the negative experiences I’ve had from that,” said Tyler.
- High school principal asked him to change his answer or it would not be printed
- Johnson said the interaction with the principal illustrated his point
- Johnson made a TikTok video describing the incident, which has been viewed by thousands of people
- https://www.tiktok.com/@_tylerrayjohnson_/video/7050249865988771119
- Shortly afterwards, the district’s superintendent overruled the principal, saying that Johnson’s original answer would be published. He also promised several initiatives to better support LGBTQ+ students.
- The American President Final Speech
- Question: How have smartphones and social media changed the power dynamic in schools?
- Anecdote
- Fred’s underground high school newspaper
- Positives
- Activism
- Education
- Accountability
- Negatives
- Distraction
- False Allegations
- Hate Speech / Threats
- Radicalization
- Legal Concerns
- 1st Amendment
- Privacy
- Resources
- #2022–01–14 Students, seeing lax coronavirus protocols, walk out and call in sick to protest in-person classes
“https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2022/01/14/students-walkout-covid-safety/”
- #2021–12–27 ‘My perspective matters’: Students say activism helped them find their voice
“https://www.wbur.org/news/2021/12/27/boston-quincy-student-activism-power-change”
- #2020–11–05 Student Voice: How young people use social media to engage civically
“https://www.pbs.org/newshour/extra/student-voices/student-voice-how-young-people-use-social-media-to-engage-civically/”
- #2021–06–07 While Students Use Social Media to Speak to Power, Schools Tutor Them in Slavish Sycophancy
“https://thewire.in/education/students-social-media-modi-cancel-board-exams-schools-sycophancy”
- #2021–05–13 ‘Make them listen’: Baltimore-area students use social media to campaign for change
“https://www.baltimoresun.com/education/bs-prem-md-students-social-media-activism–20210506–20210513-vuisz4a6bjg63evswcbl7lqk5a-story.html”
- #2020–07–06 Can students use social media to make positive change?
“https://www.pbs.org/newshour/extra/daily-videos/can-students-use-social-media-to-make-positive-change/”
- #2018–03–19 Can Schools Discipline Students for Social Media Use Outside of School?
“https://www.edweek.org/education/opinion-can-schools-discipline-students-for-social-media-use-outside-of-school/2018/03”
- #2018–01–06 Teach Students To Use Social Media (The Right Way) And The Possibilities Are Endless
“https://www.npr.org/sections/ed/2018/01/26/579955559/teach-students-to-use-social-media-the-right-way-and-the-possibilities-are-endle”
- #2017–12 How Social Media is Reshaping Today’s Education System
“https://csic.georgetown.edu/magazine/social-media-reshaping-todays-education-system/”
- #2017–03–10 SOCIAL MEDIA AND THE STUDENT/TEACHER RELATIONSHIP: THE PROS AND CONS OF ESTABLISHING CONNECTIONS WITH A GRADE SCHOOL STUDENT
“https://www.theedadvocate.org/social-media-and-the-studentteacher-relationship-the-pros-and-cons-of-establishing-connections-with-a-grade-school-student/”
- #2016–10–13 Infographic: The Use of Social Media in School
“https://www.powerschool.com/resources/blog/infographic-use-social-media-school/”

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Becca Silver coaches school administrators in the leadership and communication skills needed to “close the adult knowledge gap”, we started to see school wide culture shifts, relationships strengthening and higher teacher satisfaction and resilience.
Empower instructional coaches to impact educators in a way that increases their resilience, efficacy and satisfaction.

• WHy teachers are burning out?
• Why do we have a teacher shortage?
• What can we do about it.
• Empower our coaches?
• Interview iwth Danielle Nuhfer
• Lots of new with the pandemic
• There is a role to help teachers.
• Skills are different for coaching and teaching.
• How do you influence adults.
• Elevated out of their skill set - Peter Principle
• programs and tiering and structures
• How do you relate to someone else’s humanity?
• Are they missing knowledge, skills, or mindset?
• Coaches need to learn to listen.
• Advice monster
• Patiently waiting
• Reflective listening - yes, and; physical reaction.
• We are constantly hearing words come at us.
• Reluctant teachers.
• How to be a transformative principal? Listen for what they need. Seek out your coaches and admin team.

Sponsors

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Being a principal is tough work. You’re pulled in all kinds of directions. You never have the time to do the work that really matters. Join me as I help school leaders find the time to do the work they became principals to do.

I help you stop putting out fires and start leading.

Learn more at https://transformativeprincipal.com

John Catt

Today’s Transformative Principal sponsor, John Catt Educational, amplifies world-class voices on timeless topics, with a list of authors recognized globally for their fresh perspectives and proven strategies to drive success in modern schools and classrooms.

John Catt’s mission is to support high-quality teaching and learning by ensuring every educator has access to professional development materials that are research-based, practical, and focused on the key topics proven essential in today’s and tomorrow’s schools.

Learn more about professional development publications that are easy to implement for your entire faculty, and are both quickly digestible and rigorous, by visiting https://us.johncattbookshop.com/. Learn more about some of the newest titles: - The Coach’s Guide to Teaching by Doug Lemov

• The Feedback Pendulum: A manifesto for enhancing feedback in education by Michael Chiles

• Putting Staff First: A blueprint for revitalising our schools by John Tomsett and Jonny Uttley

• 10 Things Schools Get Wrong (And How We Can Get Them Right) by Jared Cooney Horvath and David Bott

• Let’s Talk About Flex: Flipping the flexible working narrative for education by Emma Turner

• A Parent’s Guide to Powerful Teaching by Patrice Bain

John Catt is also proud publisher of the new book from Transformative Principal host Jethro Jones: SchoolX: How principals can design a transformative school experience for students, teachers, parents – and themselves Visit this page to learn more about bulk orders and how to bring John Catt’s research-based materials to your school: https://us.johncattbookshop.com/pages/agents-and-distributors

New Episode of @TrnFrmPrincipal

Dr. Glenn Lipson, a diplomate in forensic psychology, has spent three decades preventing different forms of violence. He works with the district attorneys, schools, and civil cases where there were claims of abuse by such individuals as the clergy and teachers. As an expert witness, speaker, and advisor, he has testified in court martials, regulatory hearings and submitted briefs through counsel to the United States Supreme Court.

Dr. Lipson founded MRC (Making Right Choices) and the NASDTEC Academy, offering online courses that address interpersonal violence and prevention. As a public speaker, he has presented for the US State Department and US Army. He has received the Doug Bates Award from NASDTEC for his international contribution to making schools safer.

• Glenn’s previous podcast episode

• Background on the shooting in Michigan

• Hindsight bias - we can look back and see all the ways they handled it incorrectly.

• Procedures that have been in place.

• Have particular training involved.

• Handbook of threat assessment

• Jim Cawood

• RAGE-V

• What role does that game play in the formation of someone’s identity?

• Coolidge effect- highly stimulating encourages us to continue to engage in that behavior.

• GVRO - Gun Violence Restraining Orders

• People are trained within their area of expertise.

• Trauma-informed schools

• not punitive but facilitative reactions to kids

• NTAC secret service

• Ways to do things that.

• No child is safe if every student is not safe.

• The weapons effect

• Polyvagel theory

• CASEL

• Minister of Loneliness in UK

• The Trevor Project

• If you’re not connecting with someone in person, you’re going to connect more with people online.

Check out this episode!

layout: podcast title: Creating a school kids are dying to attend with Andrew Marotta Transformative Principal 464 comments: true date: 2022-01-16 categories: middle, student driven learning, mindset, permalink: https://jethrojones.com/podcast/episode464

Social Media: Do your teachers want the information or do they want the inspiration? via @andrewmarotta21

Andrew Marotta is an energetic and enthusiastic leader who has put his positive imprint on his beloved Port Jervis HS, in Port Jervis, NY. With the release of his first book, “The Principal: Surviving and Thriving”, Andrew is expanding his impact on the education leadership community.  The 2nd edition, The School Leader, Surviving & Thriving was released in November 2020.

• Surviving & thriving a keep rolling mindset, & the power of storytelling
• ADHD is not a disability, it's a superpower.
• Moving from High School to Middle School.
• Change is good.
• Right move for me to have a different challenge while staying in the same district.
• The kids are amazing. Extremely impressionable.
• Kids rally around excitement.
• The importance of direction.
• How the power of impressionable kids matters
• If we're not pushing out fun things on social media, the kids will pay attention to the other stuff.
• Amazing after school experience.
• Amazing school culture happens 30 seconds at a time.
• School's gotta be fun.
• That kid's going to learn to love it when they have real audiences.
• Still trying to get kids back into the school.
• Mid-lesson checkins to help know where kids are at.
• Do your teachers want the information or do they want the inspiration?
• Always working on just one move in wrestling.
• Only looking at it as a weakness. Mikey the wrestler story.
• When your weakness becomes a strength.
• How to be a transformative principal? Spend time investing in your staff. Now, more than ever, teachers need our support.

## Sponsors ### [Transformative Principal Mastermind](https://transformativeprincipal.com) Lead a school everyone can be proud of. Being a principal is tough work. You're pulled in all kinds of directions. You never have the time to do the work that really matters. Join me as I help school leaders find the time to do the work they became principals to do. I help you stop putting out fires and start leading. Learn more at [https://transformativeprincipal.com](https://transformativeprincipal.com) ### [John Catt](https://us.johncattbookshop.com) Today’s Transformative Principal sponsor, John Catt Educational, amplifies world-class voices on timeless topics, with a list of authors recognized globally for their fresh perspectives and proven strategies to drive success in modern schools and classrooms. John Catt’s mission is to support high-quality teaching and learning by ensuring every educator has access to professional development materials that are research-based, practical, and focused on the key topics proven essential in today’s and tomorrow’s schools. Learn more about professional development publications that are easy to implement for your entire faculty, and are both quickly digestible and rigorous, by visiting https://us.johncattbookshop.com/. Learn more about some of the newest titles: - _[The Coach’s Guide to Teaching](https://us.johncattbookshop.com/products/the-coach-s-guide-to-teaching?_pos=2&_sid=0405c747f&_ss=r)_ by Doug Lemov - [_The Feedback Pendulum: A manifesto for enhancing feedback in education_](https://us.johncattbookshop.com/collections/frontpage/products/the-feedback-pendulum-a-manifesto-for-enhancing-feedback-in-education) by Michael Chiles - _[Putting Staff First: A blueprint for revitalising our schools](https://us.johncattbookshop.com/products/putting-staff-first-a-blueprint-for-revitalising-our-schools?_pos=1&_sid=7dc3400e3&_ss=r)_ by John Tomsett and Jonny Uttley - _[10 Things Schools Get Wrong (And How We Can Get Them Right)](https://us.johncattbookshop.com/collections/frontpage/products/10-things-schools-get-wrong-and-how-we-can-get-them-right)_ by Jared Cooney Horvath and David Bott - _[Let’s Talk About Flex: Flipping the flexible working narrative for education](https://us.johncattbookshop.com/collections/frontpage/products/let-s-talk-about-flex-flipping-the-flexible-working-narrative-for-education)_ by Emma Turner - _[A Parent's Guide to Powerful Teaching](https://us.johncattbookshop.com/products/powerful-teaching-a-guide-for-parents?_pos=1&_sid=7bf6ec56e&_ss=r)_ by Patrice Bain John Catt is also proud publisher of the new book from Transformative Principal host Jethro Jones: [SchoolX: How principals can design a transformative school experience for students, teachers, parents – and themselves](https://us.johncattbookshop.com/collections/frontpage/products/schoolx-how-principals-can-design-a-transformative-school-experience-for-students-teachers-parents-and-themselves) Visit this page to learn more about bulk orders and how to bring John Catt’s research-based materials to your school: https://us.johncattbookshop.com/pages/agents-and-distributors

New Episode of @TrnFrmPrincipal

Dr. Glenn Lipson, a diplomate in forensic psychology, has spent three decades preventing different forms of violence. He works with the district attorneys, schools, and civil cases where there were claims of abuse by such individuals as the clergy and teachers. As an expert witness, speaker, and advisor, he has testified in court martials, regulatory hearings and submitted briefs through counsel to the United States Supreme Court.

Dr. Lipson founded MRC (Making Right Choices) and the NASDTEC Academy, offering online courses that address interpersonal violence and prevention. As a public speaker, he has presented for the US State Department and US Army. He has received the Doug Bates Award from NASDTEC for his international contribution to making schools safer.

• Glenn's previous podcast episode
• Background on the shooting in Michigan
• Hindsight bias - we can look back and see all the ways they handled it incorrectly.
• Procedures that have been in place.
• Have particular training involved.
• Handbook of threat assessment
• Jim Cawood
• RAGE-V
• What role does that game play in the formation of someone's identity?
• Coolidge effect- highly stimulating encourages us to continue to engage in that behavior.
• GVRO - Gun Violence Restraining Orders
• People are trained within their area of expertise.
• Trauma-informed schools
• not punitive but facilitative reactions to kids
• NTAC secret service
• Ways to do things that.
• No child is safe if every student is not safe.
• The weapons effect
• Polyvagel theory
• CASEL
• Minister of Loneliness in UK
• The Trevor Project
• If you're not connecting with someone in person, you're going to connect more with people online.

Check out this episode!