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This makes it too easy for kids. We coddle them.
How did you learn resilience?
Did you have an adult to help shape you into something better?
Resilience - #1 strategy attachment to a caring adult.
Bruce Perry - National Leader on trauma.
Witnessed in their humanity
How do we create that caring, supportive environment that supports that student when we are in the school environment.
We can’t get hung up on the behavior.
The problem is when we alienate because of the behavior.
Understanding that any perception of loss of safety is potential for students to become disregulated.
Trauma is the perception of loss of safety and connection, not just the ACES.
Safety - not just physical safety. Moral safety and emotional safety - see more from Sandra Bloom
How to deal with the response, “This takes too much time.”
Calm room is not punishment.
Schools can’t do this alone.
“My Piece Matters”
Won’t kids take advantage of that? Teachers notice that.

Every child wants to do well.
Do we teach them through a punishment mode or regulatory mode.
Building adult skills to support trauma-impacted youth.
Emotional Hygiene
How to be a transformative principal? Dig into understanding of hardwired response system in the brain. Kids aren’t out to get you, they just don’t know how to manage themselves.
Self-Reg Stewart Shanker
By Daniel Goleman Emotional Intelligence
Starts with understanding that each of us can help create a safe environment.
Nurturance is reparative and restorative.

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Tuesday, June 6, 2017 by jethrojones

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Safety. Connection. Learning. with Teri Barila Transformative Principal 177

Sunday, June 4, 2017 by jethrojones

Safety. Connection. Learning. with Teri Barila Transformative Principal 177
You ain’t getting to learning until that student is regulated
Building adult skills to support trauma-impacted youth with Teri Barila Transformative Principal 178
Resilience - #1 strategy attachment to a caring adult.
Nurturance is reparative and restorative

Teri Barila is the Children’s Resilience Initiative Director.

Toxic Stress impacts our brain development and architecture
Brain developed to protect that individual.
When you feel threatened, you go to that brain stem.
How we look at behavior from a different lens.
It’s not what’s wrong with this person
What has this person experienced that I can manage to support him or her.
Regulatory skills needed for kids.
Body already understands that you are being threatened.
Body shuts down all other functions to be supportive.
Use the same response systems as a child.
Understanding our brain architecture.
Language centers are disconnected when they are in stress.
Provide opportunities to calm down.
You ain’t getting to learning until that student is regulated.
We further escalate that response by sending the student out.
When we recognize that behavior is a call for help, we will move from punishment to regulation.
How to teach regulation to students.
Teach them how their brain works.
Don’t wait until they are in high school to teach self-regulation.
Recognize, validate, and manage their feelings.
Where are you as you’re walking into my classroom.
What’s going on in your world?
Mantras, other ways to regulate.
It’s all about being present with the child.
Noticing, naming, validating, managing their feelings.
We forget to notice that kids are escalating.
Rather than punishing a child for having a feeling…
Do you have enough skills to manage the feelings
What to do when they are escalated.
When one is having trouble, we don’t alienate, we try to help.
Welcome slip - “We’re glad you’re here. Welcome to school.”
Safety. Connection. Learning.